Secret Lives of Moms

Yesterday on Oprah she had a special on the "Secret Lives of Moms." She had several moms Skype in to share some of their thoughts and secrets of motherhood...

"Sometimes I'll skip pages while reading bedtime stories to my kids."
"I haven't showered for at least 3 or 4 days."
"I've packed a whole lunch for my kids out of snacks I found just in the car."
"I'm lucky if I even get my house semi picked up and get dressed for the day."

My favorite confession:

Vicki was traveling across state with her 2 children.
"I looked in the back, and the kids were sleeping, which was literally a miracle from God, but the problem was I had to pee," she says. "So I'm thinking, 'If I stop at a rest area, they're totally going to wake up, and I do not want them to wake up.' So I reach into the diaper bag, I pulled out a diaper and I peed into it."

Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile have written several books for moms
their latest book is
I'd Trade My Husband for a Housekeeper

"The expectations we have on ourselves is completely unrealistic. This generation of women was raised to believe that we should and could do it all," Trisha says. "And that list [of expectations] is so huge that we think if we can't live up to that, then we're not good moms."

Why do we always try to put on a happy face??

Mothers need to know that if they can't do it all—or if they don't want to—that doesn't make them failures, Amy says. "We need honesty," she says. "We need to support each other more."

I can truly say that life changes after having a baby. You can't just get up and go or stop really quick anymore. There is someone else that depends on you for everything and looks up to you for help and guidance. I think it is so important for us as mothers to be HONEST with one another and especially with our spouses. If we've had a rough day it's okay to explain why.

There is nothing wrong with asking to...
go take a bubble bath for some alone time
run to the store without the kids
spend time with some girlfriends one evening
go for a quick jog or a walk
have your hubby help with simple tasks around the house

I know I am very lucky to have the help I do from my husband. I'm grateful for his willingness to jump right in and help when he walks through the door after a long day at work.
I honestly don't know how single parents accomplish all that they do and I look up to them for being able to take on such an enormous task.

To all you mothers out there... it's okay to be HONEST and ask for help.
We all can relate to one another and it's important that we are here for each other.
I admire you for what you do!