Secret Lives of Moms

Yesterday on Oprah she had a special on the "Secret Lives of Moms." She had several moms Skype in to share some of their thoughts and secrets of motherhood...
"Sometimes I'll skip pages while reading bedtime stories to my kids."
"I haven't showered for at least 3 or 4 days."
"I've packed a whole lunch for my kids out of snacks I found just in the car."
"I'm lucky if I even get my house semi picked up and get dressed for the day."

My favorite confession:
Vicki was traveling across state with her 2 children.
"I looked in the back, and the kids were sleeping, which was literally a miracle from God, but the problem was I had to pee," she says. "So I'm thinking, 'If I stop at a rest area, they're totally going to wake up, and I do not want them to wake up.' So I reach into the diaper bag, I pulled out a diaper and I peed into it."

Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile have written several books for moms
their latest book is
I'd Trade My Husband for a Housekeeper

"The expectations we have on ourselves is completely unrealistic. This generation of women was raised to believe that we should and could do it all," Trisha says. "And that list [of expectations] is so huge that we think if we can't live up to that, then we're not good moms."

Why do we always try to put on a happy face??

Mothers need to know that if they can't do it all—or if they don't want to—that doesn't make them failures, Amy says. "We need honesty," she says. "We need to support each other more."

I can truly say that life changes after having a baby. You can't just get up and go or stop really quick anymore. There is someone else that depends on you for everything and looks up to you for help and guidance. I think it is so important for us as mothers to be HONEST with one another and especially with our spouses. If we've had a rough day it's okay to explain why.

There is nothing wrong with asking to...
go take a bubble bath for some alone time
run to the store without the kids
spend time with some girlfriends one evening
go for a quick jog or a walk
have your hubby help with simple tasks around the house

I know I am very lucky to have the help I do from my husband. I'm grateful for his willingness to jump right in and help when he walks through the door after a long day at work.
I honestly don't know how single parents accomplish all that they do and I look up to them for being able to take on such an enormous task.

To all you mothers out there... it's okay to be HONEST and ask for help.
We all can relate to one another and it's important that we are here for each other.
I admire you for what you do!


Peterson Family said...

Okay I laughed out loud when I read the ladies story about peeing in a diaper!!! In the mornings Kaydence is especially needy and it can be so bad that she throws a huge tantrum if I put her down to go to the bathroom. I have tried ways of doing it without causing a her a total break down but I haven't tried a diaper yet! I women really do tend to be too hard on themselves. I have a hard time asking for help, I know that Travis has long days at work and school and I feel bad asking him to give me a break. I also feel that since I only have one I shouldn't need help yet, I feel like such I should be able to handle it. But being a mom really is a 24/7 job and everyone needs a break to keep their sanity intact. Thanks for the post it is nice to know its okay to be honest and ask for help.

Peterson Family said...

wow, sorry for all the typo's I really should read the comment I make before I post it.

Judy said...

So good. I missed Oprah, and I am so glad you posted this. I still go through days of "oh I should have done this or taught them that." It is Satan's snare. When I was a mom with little kids, we didn't have blogland to hear and read all of these amazing blogs. We just thought we were alone. that we were the only one struggling. It is so nice to know that we are good, but not perfect. My kids gave ma a sign that says, " There is no way to be a perfect mom, but a million ways to be a good one" You are an amazing little mommy. I love that you shared this!

Amber and Che said...

ha ha I loved that diaper story. That was so funny! Is it weird that it actually makes me want to be a mom even more? ha ha thanks for sharing!

Danny & Crystal said...

I loved all of those mom confessions, they were too funny!

Tyson and Alli said...

I have this recorded but I haven't watched it yet. Now I'm really excited! PS I was SO mad at Ron during "The Biggest Loser" tonight!!! But Sione seems to be doing awesome at home anyway!

Holly said...

Oh my word, I sure wish I would have caught that Oprah... sounds hilarious!! :) haha.


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Stephanie Watkins said...

HILARIOUS diaper story. I can totally understand the desperation associated with keeping baby asleep.

Kasey said...

Oh yeah! I totally watched that!! I canNOT believe she peed into the diaper! I could NEVER bring myself to do that!!! Not for me!! Good post Chelsie!! Love ya! Have a happy day! Lataz~Love always, Kasey

Bailey Family said...

love the mom post! I feel that way all the time. Love the confessions! It helps make it easier to make it through the day knowing that a little person loves you and depends on you for everything! Have a fun weekend and a happy easter and we will see you when you get back!

Court and Brade said...

my mom DVR'd this oprah last week when she was staying with me-- I haven't watched it yet, but I am excited to... and AMEN to taking time out for yourself-- I have only been a mother for 11 days and I already realize the importance of that... TRULY!!!! thank goodness for GOOD hubby's huh.

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